Willpower: the ability to control your own thoughts and the way in which you behave.
“It takes a lot of willpower to stay calm”
“I don’t have the willpower to diet”
“I don’t have the willpower to go run outside. I just don’t.”
“It takes a lot of willpower to change your life”
We all have a certain amount of willpower. No matter the amount we start with in life, we can train it to become bigger, stronger. Some start in life with a lot of it. It will be easier for them to get to work on their goals, if they have any. But just because you have a lot of willpower doesn’t mean you’re using it for your own good.
Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard. You might have little willpower, but you can train it to the point where you’ll beat the output of a person who had 10 times your willpower in the first place.
“Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there”
— Will Rogers
Willpower is easier to create in an environment full of people who lift you up. It’s so hard to go your own way, to strive for your success, when you’re alone with none or very few support. If you’re aspiring to quit your job to go do your own thing and become financially independent, it’s going to take a hell lot of hustling. And the people you see everyday at your job are most likely not the ones who can help you in your project.
You’re going to come home after a long day of work at the office.
You’re going to feel tired.
You’re not going to feel like working more.
You’re going to think of turning on the TV, because you deserve to relax.
You’re going to crash in your couch and find it very comfy.
You’re going to tell yourself you can work on your project another day.
And then, your willpower is going to kick in.
That’s when you’re going to realise that this is the circle 90% of people are stuck in. That the only way to get out of this circle is to work a lot more than average. To ditch procrastination, to ditch your lack of willpower.
That’s when you’re going to realise that unless you take responsibility for your life and you get to work, nothing is going to change in your life. Time goes by so fast and there are always excuses available.
That’s when you’re going to realise that there are things you can do to greatly minimise your level of tiredness. Maybe if you stop going out, going to bed after midnight everyday, eating unhealthy food and watching Netflix all the time… Then maybe your body and mind would feel a lot better, and be more prepared to work longer than average.
That’s when you’re going to realise that even if after getting a hold of yourself you still feel so, so tired sometimes, it will all be worth it one day. One day you will be your own boss, you will be able to choose your schedule, you will be able to manage your own projects.
So yes. Nothing comes easy, and that’s nothing new. If it was easy, everyone would do it.
Action happens through planning, organising, prioritising, healthy eating, longer sleeping… And a lot of working.
List your key actions, and tackle them. Get to work. Your todo is here, on your desk, in your laptop, on your wall. Your items are ready, you don’t even have the excuse of not knowing where to start. You took the first right step in structuring your project.
Yet sometimes you actually don’t know where to go. You lose track, you don’t have a todo for this week, or your motivation fades away.
In those moments, only one thing can save you.
Determination always wins, passion helps.
Some people don’t need passion to keep going, but it’s a lot better when you have a project that follows your passion. Especially when you hit a wall.
Determination is the best friend of willpower. Together, they will make you break walls and beat the lows.
They will make you keep going on the bad days.
They will forbid you to crash in your couch and watch TV when you get home after a long day.
They will remind you to work at least a little bit on the weekend.
They will make you quit social media, Netflix, Youtube and all those distractions taking away so much of your precious time.
They will make you realise the power of planning, organising and prioritising.
They will drag you out of bed at 6am in the morning when your colleagues are still sleeping.
They will force you to go on your daily run while your colleagues are watching TV.
They will make you say no to the next after-work drinks filled with nothing but small talk.
They will make you look for the people who lift you up rather than stay with the ones who drag you down.
They will make you read books that will level up your self.
They will make you appreciate what you have while always striving for more.
They will make you shoot for the moon.
They will force you to hit the gym, eat healthy, reach whatever targets you set for yourself.
They will make you successful.
Because you are worth it. You create success through work, and one day you will see the results. When that happens, the entire journey will make even more sense when you look back. When you look ahead too.
So hold your head up. Look at the horizon. Visualise what lies behind, see what lies ahead.
Let it rain, let it pour, what you want is worth fighting for.
Picture your success. Create your environment.
You didn’t come this far.
To only come this far.